women trust and communication

This is one of those areas in which men and women differ greatly .





Often for a man it's about the length he has been in the relationship. Trust and communication don't enter into it if it's just a short term relationship; they know that if they are just in it for sexual gratification it's not that important to have trust or communication.



Women on the other hand see things very differently Trust and communication are important to them. I think some of it is because they were taught as kids to be afraid of men. They are told to be on the look out for strangers who might harm them. Think about it... How many times do you hear of a woman raping a child? Not very often.



Trust and communication play greatly on the minds of women when it comes to relationships they have to develop strong bonds with a partner. Even for a short term relationship she needs to have some level of trust and communication to have sex. Even casual sex and one night stands require some level of trust.



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Women have a lot of reasons to distrust men, many women are taught to be fearful of men from a young age. Most women who have been sexually abuse as children were abused by men they trusted., often relatives uncles , brothers ,fathers or even close friends of the family .I personally believe that this happens all to often in our society ,its very sad but it's a reality.



All of us are trying to get women into bed men will lie, deceive and say anything to get a woman into bed. Women don't trust us because they know this and know that men are by nature predatory when it comes to sex and as such are very cautious of men. How many adult women are raped?, more than we actually know because most rapes don't go reported and nearly all rapes are from men raping women and on occasion other men.



I personally would rather get a dvd and just have a wank at home........



If you are in a relationship and you are only in it for sex then you can be guaranteed that if she doesn't trust you and have good open and honest communication with you sex will not be on her agenda. Women get more turned on by someone who will listen than they do by having partner who doesn't want to listen and just wants to have sex.



If you are after a long term relationship based on trust, truth and communication then you have to put the hard work in. Communicate about what's important to you and listen to her about what issues she has. Be open and honest about your feelings and she will open up to you. Always tell the truth and be true to yourself its better to be a man than a mouse. Don't just expect her to be sexually open if you have just met, she needs to trust you first before she can share herself with you fully.



If you really want to get the best out of a relationship true to yourself and always remember that it's nearly always the men that pursue the women and the women who choose whom they will have sex with. I don't know off too many guys that have women just knocking down the door for sex, often they might have women knocking down their doors because she trusts him, he listens to her and she wants him for herself.



So remember if your partner wants to talk about the fact that she has been having period pain or that some person at work is giving her crap or even about the fact her mum is a bitch whatever these things are very important to her so listen carefully. She needs you to be open and honest as well



Nothing turns a woman on like when she comes home and you have done the housework and dinner is getting done and you hand her a drink and say "and how was your day today".

Jason Craige is a staff writer for The Love Shop you can visit this site at http://www.theloveshop.com the Love shop specialises in helping people find love as well as exciting clothes and products to enhance your relationship.